Blindside

Perception is reality. I'd argue that is not entirely true. Perception is your truth--colored by your own values, attitudes, beliefs, knowledge, experience, or unconscious biases. Reality is the truth--factual and objective. However, most people operate daily within their own perceptions.

And, that is where we often are blindsided. We fail to be observant and consider the reality of the matter. We just assume our perceptions are indeed real. We hold tight to them and assume we could never be wrong. Which oftentimes leads us to disregard others' perceptions.

Why does it matter? If you are a leader--whether in title or position or simply by your innate nature--understanding how others perceive you will help you grow and develop as well as be able to better serve those you are leading. The goal is not to cater to everyone and try to make everyone happy but rather to find the right balance. Catering to everyone leaves you devoid of your own authentic self and personality. Ignoring everyone comes across as arrogant, self-centered, and insensitive.

Find the balance. Find the people whose opinions you respect and who will be candid and share their perceptions with you. Listen with an open mind. Be ready to challenge your own perceptions. Be open to modifying your perceptions based on evidence (i.e. reality).

Don't allow your own ego to blindside you. Take a moment every now and again and check in on reality. See how others are perceiving you. You may be delightfully surprised and affirmed; you may find that your actions and words are not having the impact and outcomes you thought. Either way, it's a good opportunity to learn and grow.